The situation described highlights a delicate conflict between family tradition, personal preference, and respect for parental choices. Choosing a name for a child is a personal and meaningful decision, but it can also trigger unexpected emotions and reactions, especially when names are tied to family histories.

On the one hand, the mother decided to name her daughter Lucy, partly in honor of her husband’s grandmother’s favorite celebrity, while also keeping Mary’s middle name, a reference to her grandmother. This appears to be an attempt to include and honor the two important women in the couple’s lives.

The grandmother, on the other hand, has complex feelings about her own name and appears to be troubled by the choice of name for her great-granddaughter. The emotional conflict may be amplified by unexpressed expectations and past hurts related to the name.

In this context, it is difficult to determine who is “too far” between the mother and the grandmother. Both parties have valid feelings and different perspectives. It would have been helpful to discuss the choice of name more openly before the public disclosure, but retroactive communication was also attempted.

Ultimately, resolving this conflict may require a deep conversation based on empathy and mutual understanding. It is important to acknowledge each other’s feelings and find common ground that honors both family tradition and parental choices.